3 Ways to Reclaim Your Self-Confidence

By VinothChandar

Suffering is purely your choice
You know there comes many occasions in life where you find that your confidence is hit hard. Sometimes you conquer life's challenges, sometimes you get overwhelmed and sometimes you get compromised. But one thing is always certain that "Nobody can hurt you without your consent." Write this line on your forehead. The problem is not important but the impact it had on you is more important. In life pain is unavoidable but suffering is optional. Suffering is purely your choice, and whether you choose to spring back back or suffer is entirely your choice.
There can be numerous reasons that your self-confidence is hurt. You may have had a bad marriage and now are heading for a divorce. You were not chosen for your college's cricket team; you may have been ignored. There's definitely a lot of pain involved in any of these situations. But there is no completion for you to suffer. You must come up and decide to get back your confidence.
The following ways would help you do just that.

Look at the dazzling side of your life
If you have been ignored, it would be okay to feel bad about it for a day or two but not more than that. Losing a job is a dreadful thing, but it is not the end of the world. Perhaps it might be a blessing in disguise. Maybe you have got some time for evaluation of your life. Get aware of where you are going. Look at your likes and hobbies which you could not extend because of pressures of your job. Perhaps this is a chance to start once again and live your life a totally different way which is more in sync with your abilities and talent. A divorce may cause great pain but it is also true that you weren't happy and joyful in your marriage. Now you have a chance to rebuild your life the way you want it to be.

Never compare yourself with other people
In adversities we always question God - "Oh, God, why me?" Then you forget that God also gave you a lot of rewards as well. Then you never ask God -"Oh God, why you reward me?" Anyway, this is just human nature. We complain and remember God when we are in difficulty otherwise we are too busy with ourselves. We should stop looking at other people who seem too happy and comfortable to us from a distance. We should also stop comparing their comfort with our suffering. Because this will only annoy you further. Focus on yourself and make every effort you can make to rise up whenever you are feeling down. Self-pity can become addictive and destroy lives. Instead of pampering self-pity take control of your life and take accountability for your actions, learn from your mistakes and try your best to make a fresh start. Don’t get depressed when you hear a "NO". A "NO" is something which even greats like Edison and Ford, too, had to face. Each "NO" actually takes you closer to a "YES." Do you know that Edison conducted more than a thousand failed experiments before he actually made an electric bulb!

Be flexible
It is natural that shadows are caused when we stand in the path of sunshine. In our lives also we cause a lot of shadows by standing in the way of our own joy. In today's world, it is important to be flexible. A lot of people will look for a job for months. But still they may reject work coming their way simply because they are not prepared to adapt to some new job requirements. Many times it is wise to be a little flexible and adapt ourselves to new job demands. It is not always possible to look exactly for what we lost.

3 Superfast Ways to Manifest Money

By 401(K) 2012
 
For most of the people the words which are quick and easy don’t seem believable when it comes to manifest money.  Almost everyone has the frame of mind that if you want money it has to come with hard work.  You believe too much in hard work, don’t you?

It is general assumption that hard work is compulsory however it all depends on what kind of hard work you need to engage in to manifest money quickly and easily.

The whole theory of manifesting wealth requires a deep understanding of your relation to your physical reality as well as to yourself and your alignment with what you really want.  When you are in alignment with something just notice how you feel when you focus upon your desired thing.  Do you feel comfortable or do you feel unworthy? Do you feel joyful, happy or you feel depressed? If you feel joyful then you can be sure that you have really opened yourself up to the flow of the creative forces and your joy will pour great magnetism into you.

1. Attracting money is the not different.   Ask anyone who has been doing well in manifesting great riches will repeat this one mantra, “Do what you love and money will flow.”  This is the key. There is a deeper scientific cause for this. Just beyond the share joy of loving what you do and universe will give you rewards.  There is another reason.  When you take pleasure in what you do you move into a divine flow that empowers your intention.
2. The second way to attracting money even faster is to remove fear from the equation of your aspiration and move into boldness.  Many times people are hesitant of what they want.  When you are sure of your desires your mental images will also be clear. Then you send a clear message to universe. Then your desires can manifest very easily.
3. The third step is the skill to increase magnetism of your intention so that what you want magnetize to you.  This is the true essence of manifesting.  The more magnetic you can be the more alignment there is between you and what you desire.  The secret to manifesting is in the right techniques.  Manifesting is all about system.  You should just apply the right technique to attract the wealth. Just knowing is not enough, you must know how to apply it in a right way.

21 quick and no-nonsense methods to boost your confidence

By AlicePopkorn

21 quick and practical methods to boost your confidence to great level which you may find very interesting:

1. Don’t beat yourself up about the past mistakes. Past is gone, it’s never coming back. Instead learn from it for next time. Learn from the past and just move on with the new lesson.
2. Are you prepared for different situations? Do you believe that you are organized and equipped as much as necessary to meet any challenge that may show up in your life unexpectedly? Are you prepared for meetings, seminars, presentations, financial issues, public speaking, and job interviews? If not, get to it right now.
3. Buy yourself some new stylish clothes, get your hair done in a different way, and treat yourself to something new. It will make you feel better and will boost your confidence to a great level. Always keep changing your style. Every time you change your style you will feel new and afresh.
4. Think about someone who is confident and copy there style. You can act, talk and walk like them. You can find lots of celebrities and leaders on TV. Choose your favorite ones and try to copy their characteristics and behavior. If it works for them; it will also work for you.
5. Smile when you walk down the street, when you meet people and generally be happier even if you’re not feeling that way. Smile sends signal to your mind that you are happy in general for no cause.
6. Improve your weaknesses. Know and be grateful for what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time.
7. Play to your strengths. Find out what you are superior at and expose yourself to these opportunities because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it and have more confidence.
8. Always be positive. Find out the “I can do” side of things and focus on that side more than the “I can’t do” side. Realize that you’ve already accomplished alot in your life and believe that you will achieve lots more in the future.
9. Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, rephrase the thought, give it a new meaning and then move on with new perspective. 
10. Always be in charge of your thought. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, then these thoughts will act as speed breakers in your own progress. Ask empowering questions to be more positive.
11. Learn how to say no to people whenever you really want to say no. Don’t be afraid of saying no. Saying no to all unwanted demands is a shortcut to boost your confidence.
12. Do you allow your mind to let the words of others affect you? Do you always think mind what people think about you? This is very important to realize that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem it’s what you say to yourself is the problem.
13. At the end of each day list your accomplishments, results and successes throughout that day. It will make you feel better and also reinforce you mind to the good feeling of success and confidence.
14. Every morning when you’re in the shower, visualize in your head the events in the day as if they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the results you had. Visualize success and confidence and it is the easiest way to become successful.
15. Always be thankful. Find out what you have to be grateful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Do you have family? Do you have home, food, cloths? Do you have friends? Feel grateful for having all this.
16. Find out the words that you commonly use on a regular basis when you feel down or upset. Have you ever noticed that most people use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word it will have an effect on your confidence. For example instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed “and it will have a different effect on your mind.. Make a alternate list for the words that you use. These new words will be substitute for old words which create more intensity or negative impact. Just make sure that they are lower in intensity and then use them often. You’ll be surprised with the results.
17. Emotion is created by motion. Make sure you move around constantly. Motion creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body. If you move constantly then you feel better and more confident. That’s the reason you feel good after a long walk or running or after a good workout.
18. Learn to show off. Always brag about yourself. Chatter about your achievements and successes. It will help you to access a resourceful state of mind. It works like affirmations. It’s like self hypnosis.
19. Try to improve your body language. The way that you move your body has immense impact on your own confidence levels. Move your body energetically and always walk with your head up, shoulders back. Assume that you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change your body language and intently you will feel confidence.
20. Remember YOLO!!! You Only Live Once. If any time that you are feeling down just ask yourself this question: in 10 or 20 years time – will what I am worrying about really matter? And this question will instantly alter your mood.
21. And finally – realize that life is meaningless and empty. You can define it in any way you wish. You can literally paint your life in your own colors. Give it a positive meaning and it will become positive.