How to create good relationships

Relationships are becoming more and more difficult now days. In many relationships there is conflict and misunderstanding. Relationship problems have roots in egotism, domination, selfishness, cheating, jealousy, anger, fear, lust etc. The list is never ending.

Relationship problems begin with blame and complaints and ends with break ups and divorce. So to avoid these problems find the faults in your mindset. Many people have a tendency to complain over small things. And these small complaints latter convert into unstoppable conflicts between partners.

So, just ignore small things.

Doubt is another factor. If you doubt your partner than he will also start doubting you and it will go on and on. Many times these kind of doubts has zero evidence. So look if your doubt is a fact or just your imagination. Your partner coming home late night does not means he is cheating you, may be he was busy, tired or there was a traffic jam.

Not paying attention is also one reason. But the reason may be he is involved too much in his work or there is some financial tension or any official tension.

Whatever the problem is but never insult or use abusive language. This one rule may save your relationship. Use words very carefully. Trust your partner. Perhaps he needs your support. Misunderstanding will close all doors between you.

Never, never break communication. Just because you are angry or disturbed does not mean that you are right. Perhaps you are totally misunderstood the facts. So always remain calm and quite. In negative situations always try to remember happy moments with your partner. Those moments you spend happily together will certainly give you hope and trust.

If you meditate regularly and stay in the present moment then your mind will naturally remain calm and quite. You will see things more clearly and there will be no possibility of any conflict. For long term relationships a peaceful mind and a heart full of love are more than sufficient.

When there is love you don't need to forgive because you don't blame in the first place. Never argue with your partner. Arguments never solve anything. Let go and relax.

How to quit smoking easily

Smoking cigarette is an unconscious habit. You simply acting like a machine. You are smoking since years and this regular smoking creates a neurological path in your brain. Then whenever you feel stress you smoke. Now this sets an anchor in your brain. Stress triggers the anchor and you feel like you need to smoke. You feel lonely and the button is pressed, you need to smoke. Old friend meets and again an anchor is fired, you want to smoke. So this is vicious circle.

Your desire to quit smoke is always weak than the force of desire of smoke. So you quit smoking for few days or weeks and again return back. This is the tragedy. Second thing you don't know what to do if you stop smoking. So there is a void which needs to be filled and again you return back.

This happens again and again 100's of time and you stop quiting the cigarette.

Now there is another way, and this way is a sure way. Don't quit smoking. Just BE ALERT while you are smoking. Watch your mechanical behavior. Just how mechanically you act like a programmed machine. And this is very interesting. Till date you have smoked unconsciously, now smoke consciously. Drop the thought of quit smoking. Instead enjoy smoking and watch yourself with awareness.

What will happen if you watch consciously while you smoke?
It will break the habit!!!
Surprised?
Habit is a mechanical behavior, and it can not survive in the light of attention. You are never mindful or aware while you are smoking. You are never present. You are always escaping from the moment. But when you are watchful and alert, you are in the moment and the unconscious pattern is broken. If you smoke regularly with awareness then in few weeks you will notice your urge for smoking is fading away.Very soon you will become a smoke free person easily and effortlessly. This way you will never need any substitute for cigarette. And you will never turn back again to smoking.

How to stop loving you can't have

This is the simple reason to stop loving someone you can't have that you can't have them! Realize this. The sooner you realize this the better will be your life. Sometimes this happens. Someone walks with you for some time and you fall in love. But you both are mismatch. The attraction is momentary. But the person forgets you and you carry him in your mind. And if that person ignore you completely you feel hurt. Then what to do?

Remember there is always a better person available to you in the world. Do not waste time in regret and hatred. Instead make a list of qualities you want in your ideal lover. And Visualize that you are meeting him. He likes you and loves you. Visualization has tremendous power to manifest the results you desire.

Never hang around the person who ignore you because it will hurt your self image and self respect. Instead make a goal that you will find many options better than this one and move on. Universe is abundance. You will get many options for this one. Never carry the gifts, emails, photographs, text messages of the person who ignore you. Dump him completely and make a space for new.

Universe don't like empty space it will fill the void.